Category Archives: Uncategorized

39% of Prisoners Should Not Be in Prison — TIME

For the past year, President-elect Donald Trump campaigned on “law and order,” stating at the Republican National Convention that under a Trump presidency, “safety would be restored.” His administr…

Source: 39% of Prisoners Should Not Be in Prison — TIME

Advertisements

Test your Emotional IQ this Christmas

body

Its a season where well-meaning acquaintances & extended family members try “only helping” when they discuss your lifestyle, work-life balance, your parenting, your job, your weight, your hair-style, your dress-sense, etc. Everybody has an opinion about the recent election results, the state of the economy. This could lead to potentially unpleasant discussions even in a restaurant setting.

My inspiration in such settings is the Dalai Lama, or people who maintain their Zen-like composure, even under a barrage of thinly veiled insults. When  asked what their secret was, they say, “I just don’t let these people bother me. Usually, when people feel the need to find fault in others or the way they live their life, it’s because it makes them feel better about their own discontent.” Queen of Queendom.com did a survey; and analyzing data from 4,092 people who took the  Emotional Intelligence Test, she compared two distinct groups: Those who are happy with the relationships in their lives and those who are not. Five key traits stood out for her:

Positive Mindset

(Note: Scores range on a scale from 0 to 100)

  • Score for people who are content with their relationships: 72
  • Score for people who are discontent: 47

Content people go into every situation with a hopeful and optimistic outlook. Even when times are challenging, they strive to look for the silver lining, and see every unpleasant encounter/ challenge/ hardship as an opportunity to learn and grow.  They try to find the best in others, even if they don’t entirely see eye-to-eye with a person.

How it can help during the holidays: you too can see such encounters as an opportunity to make changes for the better, mend bridges, and start again.

Self-Esteem

  • Score for people who are content with their relationships: 72
  • Score for people who are discontent: 50

Content people recognize their own value, and go into relationships believing that they deserve just as much love and respect as the other person. High self-esteem acts like a protective barrier, where no insult, disparaging remark or failure can penetrate and damage the bearer’s sense of self-worth. People with high self-esteem accept themselves, quirks and all, because they know they are special. People with low self-esteem, on the other hand, are more likely to put down others in order to boost their own fragile sense of self.

How it can help during the holidays: Whether it’s disparaging looks or talk about your looks, or lifestyle or neglected home, you need not allow other people’s opinion shape your own. thats their opinion (even unsolicited opinion). Its worthwhile to look at them as a medium to find the message: Behind every insult is the desire to offer advice, even if poorly worded.

 

Resilience

  • Score for people who are content with their relationships: 77
  • Score for people who are discontent: 58

Content people have developed a strength of character that allows them to see and approach hardship in a unique way. They interpret obstacles, failures, and difficulties as a test of skill rather than as an impassable roadblock. Even if faced with a circumstance that they will have to deal with for the rest of their life (e.g. illness, loss), they use adversity to make them stronger. This inner strength allows them to empathize with the hardships of others, and potentially guide those who are also struggling.

How it can help during the holidays: As you ponder the year that has passed, don’t view your failures as endings, but rather, as an opportunity to do things better in the time to come. The most impactful lessons are those that are learned the hard way.

Self-Awareness

  • Score for people who are content with their relationships: 70
  • Score for people who are discontent: 53

Content people make it a point to tune into their emotions. Rather than just scratching the surface, they strive to understand why a situation or person causes them to react in a certain way. They understand that feelings are more than just a response: They offer a message that allows them to better understand their wants and desires, and the motive behind their actions.

How it can help during the holidays: Your feelings are your responsibility and are under your control. A person cannot make you angry…you allow yourself to react this way. If someone says something to upset you, take a step back and try to gain perspective of the situation. Why have this person’s words affected you so much? Perhaps they bother you because they are touching on a truth you are not ready to admit to yourself, or they remind you of a difficult time. Understanding where your reaction comes from is the first step toward better self-awareness.

Flexibility

  • Score for people who are content with their relationships: 74
  • Score for people who are discontent: 64

Content people do not see the world in black and white. There is room for diverse opinions and different interpretations of facts or truths. While they may not agree with other people’s perspectives, content people recognize that everyone has a right to their opinion. They are open to different ideas and views, if only to gain a broader understanding of an issue. 

How it can help during the holidays: Before judging a person’s opinion or choice as right or wrong, take a step back to consider the situation from their perspective. Try to understand what would motivate a person to choose a certain path. What a person values, desires, and fears can play a role in the decisions they make and actions they take.

Appmom: rejection self-esteem holiday season

Appmom: rejection

if-u-try

 

So while the holidays are generally a joyful time, they can also turn into a free-for-all where people hash out their differences or say things they wouldn’t normally say any other time of the year – which can put a real damper on holiday dinners. However, rather than worrying about other people’s conduct, focus on monitoring your own. As a wise friend once put it, what’s important is to focus on yourself:

It is a matter of recognizing that, regardless of what the other individuals’ perceptions are, it does not discount you or invalidate you, and therefore, it is not necessary to be threatened by the other individuals’ perceptions. And it is also not necessary to change the other individuals’ perceptions.

not-responsible

When you can move in a direction of genuinely being comfortable and satisfied and acknowledging of yourself, you can also begin to move in the direction of acknowledging and accepting differences in other individuals and not being threatened by that, and recognizing that their perception is equally as valid as yours.

Here are some tips:

branden

accept

practical-ways

Thats the way to go forward. Which of these tasks will take you to your goals? Which of these actions will take you a few steps closer towards the person you dream to be?

I will end with what Einstein said:

einstein

Over to you…do let me know at prasannawrites@gmail.com

Creative Pep Talk Ep. 114 – Your Best Year Yet — ILLUSTRATION AGE

https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Ftracks%2F298797869&color=ff5500&inverse=false&auto_play=false&show_user=true

via Creative Pep Talk Ep. 114 – Your Best Year Yet — ILLUSTRATION AGE

British Council Free Online Course to Explore English: Shakespeare — Knowledge Steez

British Council is offering an open online course to Explore English: Shakespeare. This six-week course is for people who are learning English and interested in the language and legacy of William Shakespeare. The overall objective of this course is to improve English language skills by looking at the life and works of William Shakespeare and […]

via British Council Free Online Course to Explore English: Shakespeare — Knowledge Steez

Becoming the Best Version of You — The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss

“Plato would have made a lousy investor.” – Adam Robinson This is a special episode of The Tim Ferriss Show. The audio is from a live conversation with not one, not two, but three guests: Josh Waitzkin, Ramit Sethi, and Adam Robinson. Josh Waitzkin is an endlessly fascinating person who gets mentioned a lot on…

via Becoming the Best Version of You — The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss

ONE DAY NATIONAL SEMINAR ON “RESTORATIVE JUSTICE” organized by FACULTY OF LAW, JAMIA MILLIA ISLAMIA In collaboration with SHREE GURU GOBIND SINGH TRICENTENARY UNIVERSITY (18th February, 2017)

Knowledge Steez

CONCEPT NOTE

Today the whole criminal justice system is facing plethora of problems- overcrowding of prison, false witnesses, long trials, manipulative facts, power influence, unsatisfied victim, lack of deterrence, increase of crime etc. the list is long. In the process of justice delivery system, no one is benefitted, neither victim nor offender. The problem related to it is now and then discussed with regard to criminal justice administration. So exploring an alternative model to carry out criminal justice is need of time, and restorative model of delivering justice looks to be sensitive and cost effective directed towards both victim and offender. This research aims to explore the comprehensive dimensions of restorative justice as an alternative form or an alternative form of justice its concept varied forms and practices across the globe

Restorative justice is a much discussed concept especially in developed countries; the concept and model of restorative justice has…

View original post 726 more words

What Does a Growth Mindset Have to Do with Learning? — Online Learning Insights

We can learn to be smart is the premise of Mindset The New Psychology of Success: How we Can Learn to Fulfill our Potential by Carol Dweck (2006). Dweck debunks the idea that intelligence is fixed, is predetermined by our gene pool. Instead, Dweck suggests individuals with a ‘growth mindset’ develop intelligence and abilities over […]

via What Does a Growth Mindset Have to Do with Learning? — Online Learning Insights

How-to Integrate Collaboration Tools to Support Online Learning — Online Learning Insights

I share here a five-step strategy for integrating technology tools to support meaningful learning in online courses. However I’d be misleading readers if I suggested that effective technology integration is as easy as following a five-step formula; I’m likely not sharing anything new with readers by emphasizing it’s not. A key component when creating effective […]

via How-to Integrate Collaboration Tools to Support Online Learning — Online Learning Insights

Oh My! The Progression of Multiplication — Beyond Traditional Math

Well, I’ve watched this video three times now and I think I need to watch it at least five more times. I love, love, love how this presented to the audience. My take aways for when I am teaching multiplication: I need to stop stealing the opportunity to let my students use concrete tools! […]

via Oh My! The Progression of Multiplication — Beyond Traditional Math

5 Tips for Establishing Respectful Group Work Routines — Beyond Traditional Math

When I first began to have students work in groups I gave it up immediately. Like literally, gave it up during the first activity I ever tried. As a new teacher I felt like half of the students were not paying attention to the task, kids were arguing, there was noise and chaos and I […]

via 5 Tips for Establishing Respectful Group Work Routines — Beyond Traditional Math